Your Life Is NOT Working – and It’s Destroying You.
That’s a tough first statement to read. And it’s even tougher to admit it to yourself.
Is there more to life than this?
This question is something you' probably asked yourself within the past 5 minutes.
As you may have read on my home page, “one of the biggest struggles of professional single men is the journey to finding what many men call, “The One.” And you were tricked to believe if you got an education, got a job, worked really hard, and made a lot of money, then women will be lining up, waiting for the chance to devote themselves to you.
And as you have learned, this story
has been a complete lie.
Instead, while many of you did do the work, got an education, got a job, made a lot of money — hell, even bought a house, car, boat, etc. — you still would walk into your home, after a long day of work, to emptiness. Just you, making dinner, watching Netflix, and having a drink — “rewards” for your hard work each and every day.
And while you long for connection — a deeply romantic connection — with an amazing woman, you’re left wondering when your next date will be, if one will ever come.
So, you go online…
…where you’re already struggling to get women you want to reply to your messages, but keep tweaking your profile and photos in hopes something makes the difference.
When you think about the alternative — going out and meeting women in-person — you’re left wondering where to go, as if you forgot how to have conversations in person,
Or maybe you’re left freaking out because the idea of walking up to an attractive woman, with the possibly of rejection existing on the other side scares the crap out of you.
Or maybe, you’ve gone out many nights and have been repeatedly shut down by women left and right, that by the night’s end, you’re left headed back home with nothing to show for it — no numbers, no dates, no connections.
So you just “give up…”
…on the day’s efforts to find that connection and become lazy about it all. The days start piling up, you go out even less, and you start not having as many close friends. Some of your friends go on, find their own relationships and don’t have the time to hang out with you anymore. You stop pursuing some of your passions or hobbies because the loneliness is too frustrating to focus on something you love.
Eventually, you just stop taking care of yourself — you stop working out, eating well, grooming, and even dressing well — you question whether or not you’re worth it since women don’t see that you are.
And then, all the hard work you’ve put into getting an education, a job, a house, starts to fall apart because the all things you were taught were the keys to long-lasting love, have become a lie.
I know this story all too well because,
I was this person.
Being self-classified as an introvert, I struggled for a long time with not knowing where to go to meet people, and if I did meet someone, how to keep the conversation going long enough to make any connection, let alone, a romantic one.
Then you throw in moving to a new city, not having many friends, and just starting a new job into the mix, all of a sudden, life became that much more daunting. I found myself wanting to hide and avoid the rejection.
Then I found a way to become more comfortable in social environments, better able to not only approach, but also connect with others who helped gives me access to a better way of living.
I created a lifestyle that presented highly quality opportunities and amazing women to connect with romantically, which I was then able to use to meet the woman who is now my wife and mother of my child.
How long did it take me? About 5 years of total commitment — over 10,000 hours of going out, interacting with women, and going through the trial and error to figure out what works and what doesn’t.
I know you don’t have that kind of time…
But let’s not forget the bigger picture here.
For so many of you, all of your efforts are geared toward “finding someone.” But let me ask you, what happens after you “find her?” What do you plan to do after you find that relationship that satisfies you?
You’ll still be alive and continuing on with life so are you prepared to take on the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship? Are you prepared to do what it takes to keep the relationship last and growing? Are you prepared to handle the ups and downs that inevitably happen in every relationship?
The truth is, for a relationship you’d like to last, seemingly, forever, “getting into a relationship” is only a tiny fraction of the whole timeline of that relationship. And I’ve been on record for years telling people “getting into a relationship” is the easiest part.
So, a better way to ask this question is, what are your plans after getting into a relationship? What parts of your life, all of a sudden, become capable of more? Your career? Your lifestyle? What about your contribution to your family? Community? For some of you…the world?
What is the long-term game for having
everything in life you have set out for?
After over 10 years of coaching thousands of men and women, over 300 marriages and engagements, dozens of children born through the relationships I’ve helped form, and through my life experience, I’ve been able to develop a belief system that has the true keys to the type of life you want in 90-days.
This transformational system follows THREE distinct levels and it’s important to know what they are so you can be clear on which level you’re on.
✅ Level 1 – STRATEGY
This is the level where every man starts. This is the HOW. How do I approach her? How do I lose weight? How do I make more money? We’ve been conditioned over decades to believe that as long as we can figure out the HOW, we’ll be able to do it.
That is only partially true. The way to really believe this is to look at all the information you’ve downloaded, read, watched about things you want in your life? How many of those things do you have now?
How much are you still struggling to get what you REALLY want?
The HOW gives you great tools but if you don’t know how to use them effectively, then they’re useless.
✅ Level 2 – SUPPORT
Most men don’t reach this level. It’s too challenging of a level to reach because it involves the one thing we were taught as men to NEVER do – ASK FOR HELP.
This is the WHO. Who can support me in getting the life I want?
Asking for help is not something that gets praise, especially growing up. When you say you need help, you’re weak, stupid, or even a pussy. To share your anxiety around dating, your work, for family would be you being a bitch.
You were taught to keep it in and deal with it. REAL men deal with that stuff on their own. Where that leads us is into isolation, loneliness, and an even darker place filled with anger, shame, guilt, and blame, the most toxic of emotional energy that can lead to toxic behavior.
Doing things alone will work – until it doesn’t. And it ALWAYS gets to a point where it doesn’t.
Having support is the OPPOSITE of being weak. Receiving support gives you POWER.
Think of the best athletes in the world. They may have God-given talents, but you better believe they have coaches who help them maximize those talents. What about politicians, influencers, or successful businessmen? The more support someone has, the more powerful they are. And even with a lot of support, some men STILL can’t get over their challenges, which then tells us it’s not the strategy or the support…
✅ Level 3 – STATE
Your state (read: mindset) creates the reality around you. This is the WHY. Why do want this? Why is it important to overcome this challenge?
The events that happen in your life are neutral by default. However, how your mind perceives these events will determine whether they’re good or bad, thus creating meaning around the events of your life.
Shitty thoughts, shitty meaning, shitty life.
You could have the best tools and incredible support, but if the person using these have no faith in themselves or are always creating negativity in their mind, then EVERYTHING becomes useless.
This is a level few men are willing to go to, simply because this is where the most fears, challenges, and obstacles exist. This is also where your greatest life exists.
You can’t HOW your way to WHY.
The WHY will transform EVERYTHING in your life but only if you are willing to take the necessary path.
‼️ What Is The Path?
The path is through a system called Predictable Love Integration™ and I’ll show you how to have an active social life, great dating experiences that can lead to a long-term relationship, an elevated career, and lasting impact on those in your life you care about the most, without worrying about inexperience, fear of rejection, and loneliness holding you back from what you want.
So I invite you to click the button below, have a conversation with me about what your life can look like, and if I can be the one to guide you there.
Are you up for the challenge of your life?
I hope to see you on the other side — keep it simple, be amazing, and live with intention.